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Aug 24Liked by Katie Selina

oh, Katie, I am sorry about the early pregnancy losses. It is so hard to let go of what you thought your family would look like.

After my 4th baby, I totally lost myself & then just as I was finding my feet again perimenopause hit & I've spent the last 4 years not knowing myself again. I am back in the goo.

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It has been the hardest chapter of my life but I feel like I am finally rediscovering myself now... Hopefully I get a few good years before the perimenopause hits hard! 😂😭

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Sep 13Liked by Katie Selina

I'm not sure how I found your post but it really resonated with me! Especially the goo part :) I'm so sorry to hear of the hardships you went through with your pregnancies, I can't imagine how heart-breaking that must be. I feel like I've lost myself as well over the last 10-12 years and still not got to a place of feeling confidently me (if that makes sense).

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Thank you so much for your lovely comment. I think there are a lot of us quietly going through this feeling of being lost… I hope by talking about it I can help others feel less alone. ❤️

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I'm the exact same age as you, and while our paths have looked a bit different, there is so much I relate to here. Growth IS painful, and I don't think we acknowledge that enough. Growing, for me, has often meant outgrowing and there is so much loss and grief in that. But there's a lot of beauty in the growth, too, and I'm excited to follow along as you continue to figure out what this next phase of life is going to look like for you <3

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Ah, the good old caterpillar goo! 🐛🐛🐛🧡

Your writing is so sweet and beautiful and very relatable.

I am very sorry for the losses ❤️‍🩹

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Thank you so, so much 🥰

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Aug 17Liked by Katie Selina

I feel like I could’ve written this myself. I feel so behind in comparison to others my age but find things like gardening, baking and crafting very grounding and a solid reminder of who I am, when I’m not in a job that aligns with that.

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It is so nice to connect with someone who gets it! Thank you for reading and for leaving such a lovely comment. xx

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Aug 13Liked by Katie Selina

That’s beautifully written and very thought provoking for me too.

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Thank you so much! xx

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